With 52.6% of the votes in our last survey, the topic that interested you was: Tantrums. As I promised, I encourage you to leave your comments and experiences:
tantrums The age corresponds to the 2 / 3 years and occur primarily because the child can not verbalize what happens. That is a normal evolutionary behavior does not mean that we should not intervene. It's time to teach our children to tolerate and respect NO limits, the key is to learn what behaviors are appropriate and which are not through strengthening the former and not address the second, and discover that not everything / all are available here and now.
We encourage you to try the effectiveness of this technique if you have that will face the dreaded Tantrum:
1, ignore the behavior and keep doing what we were doing or start a new task (to put a washing machine, read a book, order fridge, give them a shower ...)
2 º express in first person: "I am angry a lot"
3 º use keywords short: "Enough", "all gone"
4 º calmly tell him you will not ignore to what he asks: "Sorry I will not buy sweets"
5 ° Add a firm tone: "I will not make up case do not stop ... "
6 º Remove yourself from the situation and give it a time to reflect (one minute per year), is focused on your task.
7 º Some time for reflection: If you are not over: repeat steps 4 and 5 by increasing the time reflexión.Si passed to it is essential for this technique to work do not forget to reward appropriate behavior: "I like how you're so quiet and we can continue ...." When you apply this technique you decide to keep in mind:
- Immediately to the application increases the inappropriate behavior. Ie behaviors that you can find until now not been performed, or that he did far more intense, more screaming, hitting things, throwing objects, hitting, etc. attempts.
- This part of the process can be particularly difficult, but it will pay to see decrease the behavior. A tip: The first time you do it to be at home and when these behaviors begin, if not dangerous for him retire (if you have gone before who would see.) When
aplicareis not this technique:
- When the behavior we want to eliminate is a real danger to the child.
- In periods where children have other pressures external.
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